Sadly, I find that many apostate Christians can see only
rules and human failures in the Church. What about love for Jesus Christ and a
holy life?
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Why
I left the Catholic church
Joan Butler Joan Butler is a lifelong resident of Kelligrews, Conception Bay South.
Joan Butler Joan Butler is a lifelong resident of Kelligrews, Conception Bay South.
The Telegram (St.
John’s)
March 21, 2013
As a non-practising
Catholic, I am optimistic that our new Pope Francis will bring some much-needed
change and bring people like me back to the church.
I stopped going to
mass many years ago because the church I grew up with was no longer relevant in
my life. As an adult, I lived in a world of divorce, birth control, same-sex
relationships, women leaders, non-denominational schools, and the like. I soon
learned the church’s stance on these issues was contrary to my beliefs and
values.
The freedom to make
the decision to no longer attend weekly mass came after many years of living in
a life heavily influenced by the Catholic Church.
Growing up in
Kelligrews, I attended the local Catholic school, St. Edward’s, which is now
the Knights of Columbus building. I lived closer to the Protestant St. Alban’s
School yet had to attend the Catholic school because that was the rule back
then if you had a Catholic parent. My mother was Catholic and my father was
Anglican so, while such mixed marriages were not common, when they did happen,
the children had to be raised Catholic.
One of my earliest
memories of St. Edward’s School is how we had to learn and memorize the blue
catechism. We went across the street to church as part of our school
curriculum, and that also meant going to that dreaded confession box where we
had to confess our sins of the past week or month. We could not take Holy
Communion without confession and penance and if we did not go to Communion on
Sunday everyone knew that you had some sins on your soul.
Going to mass on
Sunday was not an option — we just had to go. St. Edward’s mass was 9 a.m., as
the priest had to get to Topsail for another service at 10:30. No such thing as
a rotation — we were stuck with the early mass. You had to get to the church
early to get a seat or you ended up in standing room at the back.
We started every school
morning with prayers. Monday morning often included the teacher asking whether
we were at mass on Sunday. The teacher always knew, but there was some delight
in asking and seeing us squirm if for some reason we did not get there.
Our Anglican neighbourhood
friends were not allowed to play cards on Sunday. We were allowed such a vice
and even had bingo on Sunday nights at Powers’ Court and a bus to pick us up
and bring us home from the Manuels hall.
Due to the
denominational school system, we were bused to Power’s Court School — now Holy
Spirit — in Grade 5. After Grade 9, local Catholic students were uprooted again
and bused to St. John’s for high school at Holy Heart and Brother Rice, and
then in the 1970s to Beaconsfield, the first co-ed Catholic high school in St.
John’s. Conception Bay South students were bused to St. John’s for years until
Holy Spirit finally became a high school.
The dismantling of the
denominational school system and the abuse scandals that plagued the church
here and in other jurisdictions have also influenced many decisions to leave
the church or to become a non-practising Catholic.
Others like me have
also stayed away from the church because after our childhood experience, we
realized that the church was not going to change.
The election of a new
Pope has created a sense of hope for a new direction and that he may be able to
attract some of us back to the church. I hope he succeeds.
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